Just another statistic? Hopefully not.
You remember the day you said, “I do.” You knew the statistics, but your love was so big, so unique, you believed you would be the couple who would make it. You would always have this special love for one another.
You have disagreements sometimes, but you would never get to that place where so many couples end up and then divorce.
Today, you are confused.
You look across the room and remember last night’s argument. You can hear the things you both said ringing in your ears, and you don’t know if you can move past or forgive, especially since last night was not the first time.
You have been here before. You know the pattern. Today, he will leave without kissing you goodbye, and you’ll promise yourself to hold out for an apology. But then he’ll never apologize, and this pattern that used to last less than a day has started to stretch out for more than a week.
It’s exhausting to be this angry and this sad. And don’t even get yourself started on the hope for emotional and physical intimacy. You barely remember that connection.
Or does your story sound like this?
He is late again and didn’t call. You wonder, “Is he seeing someone else? Why don’t I matter?”
When you finally ask him, you realize he told more lies, crossed lines, and broke promises.
Will you ever trust again?
When we marry, we stand before each other with luggage.
Luggage comes from our childhood, our past, other relationships, and traumas. We bring this luggage into our marriage, often not realizing it or understanding how these experiences form our ideas and expectations of our relationships.
This luggage is also called baggage.
Couples therapy helps you sort out the baggage.
In couples counseling, we will unpack your baggage to provide the opportunity for understanding, building new patterns, and ultimately healing.
Let’s work together to heal the emotional wounds impacting your relationship. We’ll cultivate understanding, intimacy, and trust in a safe and supportive place.
Using proven techniques, you’ll learn to recognize the obstacles holding you in place so you can move beyond them.
You can still be the couple with the hopes and dreams you had the day you married. Call us today.
Every couple needs something specific to their relationship.
If unpacking your pile of metaphorical luggage helps you decide that you are better apart, our counselors will walk you through a healthy goodbye.
Saying goodbye does not always mean you don’t love each other anymore.
Sometimes, choosing to be done is a loving decision so that you can stop hurting each other.
We can help you honor what was as you move into a new chapter in your life. Call us today.
There is hope.
Couples therapy can provide a safe, neutral place to process the wounds and trauma in your marriage.
When you enter our office, you will receive a welcome from a therapist that understands marriage consists of two individuals who create one family, one system. Your counselor will not choose sides of either one, but rather the side of you as a couple.
Couples counseling will allow you to explore patterns within the relationship that have caused distance. You will have the chance to learn your attachment style, explore hurts, and create emotional corrective responses.
You both will feel heard and learn how to listen to your spouse. You will learn healthy communication skills and how to be vulnerable and honest.
Reach out. We’re here to help.